Your best friend is the most bad ass kid in your class. You know the one, the alpha dog.
If you can find a way to reach this alpha dog and he or she will control the rest of the class re: negative behavior.
It’s obvious the alpha dog doesn’t want to be there and the odds are homework is never completed. What can you do to win the alpha dog over? Be bold and ask alpha dog one on one, “what can I do to help you make school life easier”? The odds are they hate being there and hate homework. Certainly you can’t just print alpha dog a diploma. But maybe you can customize homework assignments. Some homework is better than none alpha dog is currently turning in. Give alpha dog some sense of control over homework and you may develop a little bond beneficial to alpha dog. It might just be something to build upon and who know you might turn alpha dog into a good student.
Giving alpha dog a sense of a little control might win alpha dog over and just might calm him down. Alpha dog may become your protector keeping other class dogs who like to show their asses in check.
If you can manage to build a bond or more like a workable relationship with alpha dog he’ll calm down and will step-up when other students get up your ass.
Now, I am sure all you teachers know about I-messages. Those who point fingers and say, “you do this” and “you don’t do this” shit will only put up a communication wall. Somewhere before the word you, there should be the word I. Like, “I feel need to do your home work” or “I appreciated if you would chill out just a little during class”.
Is all this kissing the alpha dog’s ass? Perhaps yes! But if you are able to “connect” with the alpha dog you could gain some teaching time back rather than constantly fight alpha dog and his dog pound. You know damn well if you go to your building administrator they’ll just tell you to suck it up. Giving detentions over and over to alpha dog just fuels the rage.
Contrary to belief, negative behavior is a form of communication and a distress call.
What does Kilroy know? Kilroy has done work with kids in treatment centers, the ones that can’t function in alternative schools, the ones who required passive physical restraint and behavior plans unique to the individual. And yes Kilroy was certified in passive physical restraint and assisting with the administration of medication.
I’ve worked with non-delinquent, delinquent adolescence and even juvenile sex offenders. Also, I’ve worked with the same population in specialized foster care programs. I would even visit the hoods for individual and family sessions. I’ve restrained many alpha dogs and most importantly build working relationship with these alpha dogs. I am a master of yell therapy.
I use to have these alpha dogs threaten my life. My response would be, you can kill me later but right now you “will” take time out.
Yep, I am bringing Race to The Top in this post. What does Race to the Top have to offer in addressing disruptive students / alpha dogs? Nothing ! What do Arne Duncan and Jack Markell know about how disruptive students are dumped back in the classrooms because there isn’t enough funding to address the need? Not a dam thing! What provisions are there within the results of DCAS that will expedite educational evaluations for students in clear need of additional services? NONE! All the RTTT data and DCAS in the world does not provide needed resources to address behavior and clear educational deficiencies.
As far as alpha dogs and his dog pound in need of social services such as treatment outside the school or interventionist to address family crisis that often is root cause of dysfunctional students, Markell has no plan. Markell feels schools and the classroom teacher are the interventionist from educational needs to behavior needs.
Alpha dogs and teachers are closely related. That’s right closely related, both dogs. Markell, Duncan and these so-called reformists kick teachers around like dogs. Teachers are more like wolves howling in the wind for help. And their boards anointed alpha dogs called superintedents are always down Dover licking the asses of the political dogs.
I see teaching as a creative art form but Markell and company including clueless DOE Dan sees teachers as narrow-minded instructors bound to restricted curriculums.
Surely disruptive behavior accounts for 30% in lost teaching time and perhaps more. How about if we required The Delaware Secretary of Education and her poodle DOE Dan be required to teach a classroom once a month. This way they can come to the districts and meet with the kiss ass supers in-between classes.
Every year disruptive behavior becomes more intense and more threatening. Those new security cameras in schools aren’t necessary to deter outside intruders. But they are there to also deter inside intruders and negative behavior.
Good luck to all you teachers and God help you.